My next baby will be here in a few short weeks and I am feeling the anxiety.  I don’t have a baby bath tub, or enough swaddling blankets.  I have to pull out all of those fun things like burp cloths and my handy Nose Frida (no bulb syringe here, this thing works great!).  I also need to get a new dresser to hold enough clothes for 2 children.

What I won’t be preparing: bottles.  Won’t use them.  Pump: probably won’t be using that either, though I may grab it in a moment of engorged desperation.  Nursery: baby will be either sleeping next to me in bed or next to our bed in our Hushamok hammock.

What I hope not to prepare: a hospital labor bag!  I will find out very soon if homebirth is a possibility for us.  Since the MMA (Midwifery Modernization Act) passed and Certified Nurse Midwives have the right to practice homebirths in the state of NY without a signed practice agreement with an OB, there is hope.  The only foreseeable block is that my potential midwife already has a mom due at the end of October and she also wants to take some time off that month.  If she can get coverage from one of the other midwives in Ithaca then I should be good.  The next hurdle would just be meeting with her and making sure I am comfortable with her.  It looks like my insurance does cover homebirth, at least 70%.  NY State does have a law stating a woman has the right to choose her birth setting and doctor and insurance must cover it.  Strange that NY is great for Homebirth in terms of insurance, but it took so long for homebirths to be practiced without the legal tape and hoops.

Besides my obvious reasons for wanting a homebirth, the main perk would be not having to scramble for childcare when I go into labor.  Living far from friends and family is very hard, and even harder when you need to leave your house in a relative hurry with short notice.  Grandma’s are good for that, “friends” are not.  Especially those with jobs and children.  I would still want to have someone come to help with Fletcher depending on the time.  But at least he wouldn’t have to pack up and come to the hospital with us, which is what I am afraid of.

If things don’t pan out then I will be ok, but only because I do love my current midwife.  She is caring and competent and will make my birth experience as close to a home birth as possible.  I would actually be sad to lose her if I get my homebirth.  I only wish she could deliver me at home!

Pregnancy wise, this has been a breeze compared to my first.  With my first I weighed close to what I weigh now before I even got pregnant.  And I kept gaining.  I had constant hip pain very early on.  It hurt to walk up and down stairs.  I ran out of breath, my Gestational Diabetes had me on far fewer carbs than I can eat now, and I was generally pretty miserable.  These days I forget I am pregnant.  While I am beginning to experience trouble sleeping and some hip pain at night, during the day I am comfortable.  My GERD has settled down thanks to my Gestational Diabetes diet and I stopped taking any medications for it besides the occasional Tums.  I do have to pee a lot but I don’t think there is a way to avoid that at this point.  I am also getting a little lazy.  My floor hasn’t been mopped in a couple of weeks!  The only reason it isn’t coated with crumbs is that I have a Roomba.

I am getting more and more excited about meeting my next son.  I am also starting to dread the impending loss of sleep that I have only recently started getting.  I am afraid two children will kill me, especially since the one I have keeps me busy enough.  Still, I will be happy to have him here with us!

6 Responses

  1. I hope you get a good birth experience! With a pregnancy experience this good, hopefully you’ve got a good chance.

    I have a tub recommendation for you: Prince Lionheart washPOD. It’s like a tummy tub, but cheaper and has some design improvements (in my opinion). I really liked it with my baby, but he grew so fast that we had to stop using it after only a couple of months and then went to the sink, but it should last average sized babies until 6 months. It doesn’t take up a ton of room and you can used it as a toy bucket when you are done with it.
    .-= amanda´s last blog ..Thoughts on Breastfeeding =-.

  2. I am due with my 3rd aby Oct 13 or before..My 2nd came at 36 weeks..I like you are not quite ready yet ..My 17 month old just started sleeping through the night in July . I am looking forward to haveing Baby #3 ,but I know my life is going to be crazy with a 5 year old,a 19 month old and a New Baby!!
    .-= Carly Klaus´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.

  3. I have everything ready for the baby #2 due within the next 4 weeks, I found getting ready for #2 was so much easier and less stressful because I know what to expect and am just looking forward to the baby, not worried about what labor will feel like and if I have all the right baby equipment. Plus gaining about 25 less pounds this time has really helped! We also need a 2ed dresser, I have all the babys clothing in plastic shoe box storage containers!

  4. After birth you should have enough “adrenaline” to keep you going for at least a couple months. It’s amazing how soon it wears off and you realize how many days you’ve gone with little sleep…but it’s totally worth it in the end, isn’t it?

    Good luck with the labor!

  5. 2 is definitely harder than one but if Fletcher still naps you will have it better than me! lol My oldest was done napping before my youngest got here so there was no family nap time. 🙁 Good luck with the homebirth! I prefer all natural and relaxed myself but I’m not sure I could do a homebirth myself. It definitely has its perks though!

  6. Oh my! 31 weeks…. best of luck to you! I hope everything goes as planned. With our first we were totally not prepared. With No. 2 we had everything ready except for our fluffy stash because we hadn’t really made the full decision to go cloth. The tub, we got the regular hammock kind, which I really didn’t use cus we had a squirmy baby. We just sponge bathed her on the changing pad. After that we used the tub we used for our 1st, newborn to toddler tub. But I would also recommend the puj tub… have you heard of it? (http://www.pujbaby.com/) Well hope all goes well!
    .-= Cinella´s last blog ..Vacation time – help me out! =-.

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